A caveat is that both Lifetrack and Lovetrack are most effective when a couple works together, sharing their graphs to help each other overcome natural resistances and achieve higher levels of closeness than ever experienced before. If you do not have a partner, you might share graphs with a special close friend to stimulate and encourage each other in your common goal of finding and building a successful close relationship and improving the overall quality of your lives. Your chosen partner must be honest, tender and capable of commitment -- a person who shares your genuine desire to build a successful and lasting closeness. If your goal is to transform your personality, the only proven format is a three-person team -- you, your life partner, and an experienced Lifetrack therapist -- working regularly (typically weekly) for three to six months. The three-person team that is the foundation of the Lifetrack method helps protect you and the therapist and ensures maximum productivity in achieving the goal of therapy -- breakthrough intimacy. For that reason, your partner in life should always work with you and your chosen therapist, and you should avoid therapists who do not encourage such teamwork.

Increasing closeness between loving and committed partners can naturally provoke defensiveness, manifested in varying degrees of anxiety, anger, physical symptoms, depression and even psychosis, until a breakthrough is made in intimacy and defensiveness is overcome. If you experience excessive defensive reactions against escalating closeness with your partner, you should consider consulting a professional therapist. You must remember, however, that symptoms of stress provoked by escalating intimacy with your partner are not the cause of the problem but signs that your existing personality is having difficulty accommodating the rising level of intimacy. Defensive reactions (symptoms of stress) are not only inevitable but necessary for you to break out of your existing personality. Therapy should help you overcome defensiveness to reach a higher level of intimacy, not simply reduce the symptoms by distancing or sacrificing intimacy.